{"id":1132,"date":"2023-01-04T14:09:00","date_gmt":"2023-01-04T13:09:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/?p=1132"},"modified":"2023-01-04T14:25:29","modified_gmt":"2023-01-04T13:25:29","slug":"nebudte-people-pleaser-aneb-proc-je-nekdy-lepsi-myslet-na-sebe","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/nebudte-people-pleaser-aneb-proc-je-nekdy-lepsi-myslet-na-sebe\/","title":{"rendered":"Nebu\u010fte people pleaser aneb Pro\u010d je n\u011bkdy lep\u0161\u00ed myslet na sebe"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Jeden z&nbsp;\u010dast\u00fdch probl\u00e9m\u016f, se kter\u00fdm se freelance\u0159i pot\u00fdkaj\u00ed, je to, \u017ee se sna\u017e\u00ed d\u011blat p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 mnoho v\u011bc\u00ed pro p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 mnoho klient\u016f, a u toho zapom\u00ednaj\u00ed na sebe a sv\u016fj \u017eivot. Jak se tohoto n\u00e1vyku zbavit?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>V\u017edycky si najdete na klienta \u010das, p\u0159esto\u017ee v\u00e1m nezb\u00fdv\u00e1 \u010das na vlastn\u00ed pl\u00e1ny? Pro lidi, kte\u0159\u00ed se okol\u00ed sna\u017e\u00ed za ka\u017edou cenu zavd\u011b\u010dit, najdete v&nbsp;angli\u010dtin\u011b term\u00edn people pleasers. A i kdy\u017e to na prvn\u00ed pohled zn\u00ed lichotiv\u011b, nen\u00ed to tak \u00fapln\u011b pravda. Proto\u017ee m\u00edsto toho, abyste se zdokonalovali ve sv\u00e9 profesi, d\u011bl\u00e1te st\u00e1le n\u011bco jin\u00e9ho a <strong>nem\u00e1te \u010das na r\u016fst ani odpo\u010dinek<\/strong>. Nebudete d\u00edky tomu obl\u00edben\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ani respektovan\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, jen v\u00edce zanepr\u00e1zdn\u011bn\u00ed. Nau\u010dte se proto s&nbsp;touhou v\u0161em se zavd\u011b\u010dit pracovat, abyste m\u011bli tak\u00e9 \u010das na vlastn\u00ed \u017eivot. Nep\u016fjde to ze dne na den, ale ka\u017ed\u00fd krok se po\u010d\u00edt\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Jak pozn\u00e1te, \u017ee jste people pleaser?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Pokud se najdete v&nbsp;n\u00e1sleduj\u00edc\u00edch tvrzen\u00edch, pravd\u011bpodobn\u011b se sna\u017e\u00edte zavd\u011b\u010dit v\u0161em a trochu zapom\u00edn\u00e1te na svoje pot\u0159eby a touhy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>\u010casto d\u011bl\u00e1te v\u011bci, kter\u00e9 nechcete d\u011blat, jen proto, \u017ee v\u00e1s o n\u011b klient po\u017e\u00e1dal.<\/li><li>Pravideln\u011b jste pro klienty dostupn\u00ed i po ve\u010derech a o v\u00edkendech.<\/li><li>M\u00e1te probl\u00e9m \u0159\u00edkat NE.<\/li><li>Jste hrd\u00ed na to, \u017ee se sna\u017e\u00edte ka\u017ed\u00e9mu vyhov\u011bt.<\/li><li>Jste vy\u010derpan\u00ed a nem\u00e1te \u010das na sebe.<\/li><li>Boj\u00edte se <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/jak-zvysit-ceny-a-nenastvat-stavajici-klienty\/\">zvednout cenu<\/a>, aby v\u00e1s klient neodm\u00edtl.<\/li><li>Souhlas\u00edte s&nbsp;v\u011bcmi, kter\u00e9 jsou proti va\u0161emu p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010den\u00ed.<\/li><li>V\u00e1\u0161 seznam \u00fakol\u016f se ka\u017ed\u00fd den sp\u00ed\u0161e prodlu\u017euje, ne\u017e aby se zkracoval.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Pro\u010d se nevyplat\u00ed snaha v\u0161em se zavd\u011b\u010dit?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Pokud stav\u00edte pot\u0159eby ostatn\u00edch nad sv\u00e9 vlastn\u00ed a neum\u00edte \u0159\u00edkat ne, zna\u010d\u00ed to hlub\u0161\u00ed probl\u00e9m. T\u00edm m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt strach z&nbsp;odm\u00edtnut\u00ed, strach z&nbsp;ne\u00fasp\u011bchu i \u0159ada dal\u0161\u00edch nep\u0159\u00edjemnost\u00ed. Jen\u017ee jak odm\u00edtnut\u00ed, tak <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/zvladani-nezdaru-jako-klicova-vlastnost-freelanceru\/\">ob\u010dasn\u00fd p\u00e1d, k&nbsp;\u017eivotu i podnik\u00e1n\u00ed pat\u0159\u00ed<\/a>. Pokud se dlouhodob\u011b sna\u017e\u00edte zavd\u011b\u010dit v\u0161em okolo, nepovede to k&nbsp;va\u0161\u00ed v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed oblib\u011b a kari\u00e9rn\u00edmu r\u016fstu. Zato se m\u016f\u017eete t\u011b\u0161it na <strong>psychick\u00e9 i fyzick\u00e9 obt\u00ed\u017ee<\/strong>, kter\u00e9 s&nbsp;sebou nese dlouhodob\u00e9 <strong>p\u0159epracov\u00e1n\u00ed<\/strong>, <strong>stres<\/strong> a <strong>zanedb\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed vlastn\u00edch pot\u0159eb<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u010cast\u00fdm probl\u00e9mem chronick\u00fdch people pleaser\u016f na voln\u00e9 noze je \u0161patn\u00fd <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/jak-vytvorit-casovy-plan-projektu-pro-sebe-i-pro-klienta\/\">time management<\/a>, kdy si na sebe nalo\u017e\u00ed v\u00edc ne\u017e zvl\u00e1dnou a pak nest\u00edhaj\u00ed <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/deadliny-jak-je-realisticky-odhadnout-a-jak-je-dodrzet\/\">deadliny<\/a>, dal\u0161\u00edm n\u00e1sledkem je t\u0159\u00ed\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed specializace, kdy nedok\u00e1\u017eou odm\u00edtnout po\u017eadavky klienta, kter\u00e9 jsou mimo jejich obor, a to cel\u00e9 nakonec m\u016f\u017ee v\u00e9st k&nbsp;naprost\u00e9mu vyho\u0159en\u00ed. Proto je dobr\u00e9 tento za\u010darovan\u00fd kruh p\u0159eru\u0161it co nejd\u0159\u00edve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Jak neb\u00fdt people pleaser?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>N\u00e1vyk zavd\u011b\u010dit se nej\u010dast\u011bji vznik\u00e1 u\u017e v&nbsp;d\u011btstv\u00ed. A n\u011bco, co je va\u0161\u00ed sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed tolik let, ze dne na den nezm\u011bn\u00edte. <strong>Prvn\u00ed krok ke zm\u011bn\u011b za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1, kdy\u017e si uv\u011bdom\u00edte, \u017ee se v\u00e1s tento probl\u00e9m t\u00fdk\u00e1<\/strong>. D\u00edky tomu, \u017ee si ho pojmenujete, s&nbsp;n\u00edm m\u016f\u017eete za\u010d\u00edt pracovat. Jak?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Zu\u017ete svou specializaci<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>P\u0159ipom\u00edn\u00e1 va\u0161e nab\u00eddka slu\u017eeb svou rozmanitost\u00ed sp\u00ed\u0161 j\u00eddeln\u00ed l\u00edstek? Nesna\u017ete se d\u011blat v\u0161echno, abyste se zavd\u011b\u010dili v\u0161em. Vyberte si jednu dv\u011b slu\u017eby, ve kter\u00fdch se budete zdokonalovat. D\u00edky tomu nebudete t\u0159\u00ed\u0161tit svou pozornost a rychleji se vypracujete do role specialisty. \u00dasp\u011b\u0161n\u00e9 podnik\u00e1n\u00ed nestoj\u00ed na tom, \u017ee budete d\u011blat st\u00e1le v\u00edc. <strong>Naopak je lep\u0161\u00ed toho d\u011blat m\u00e9n\u011b, zato ale l\u00e9pe<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pokud v\u00e1s klient po\u017e\u00e1d\u00e1 o slu\u017ebu mimo va\u0161i nab\u00eddku, odka\u017ete ho na jin\u00e9ho specialistu. I z&nbsp;tohoto d\u016fvodu se vyplat\u00ed v\u011bnovat n\u011bjak\u00fd \u010das <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/jak-na-networking-na-volne-noze\/\">networkingu<\/a> a vytvo\u0159it si kontakty i s&nbsp;odborn\u00edky mimo va\u0161i specializaci.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Nastavte si hranice<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Jste k&nbsp;zastihnut\u00ed 24\/7? Ruku na srdce, kdy\u017e si dop\u0159ejete trochu volna, pravd\u011bpodobn\u011b se nic tak hrozn\u00e9ho nestane. <strong>Ostatn\u00ed lid\u00e9 zvl\u00e1dnou fungovat, i kdy\u017e jim ob\u010das <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/umeni-stanovit-si-hranice-naucte-se-rikat-ne\/\"><strong>\u0159eknete NE<\/strong><\/a>. A rozhodn\u011b se kv\u016fli tomu nemus\u00edte c\u00edtit provinile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>S&nbsp;klientem si tak v\u017edy <strong>na za\u010d\u00e1tku spolupr\u00e1ce domluvte, kdy budete k&nbsp;zasti\u017een\u00ed<\/strong>. Nebojte se to \u0159\u00edct i st\u00e1vaj\u00edc\u00edm klient\u016fm, kte\u0159\u00ed si zvykli volat v\u00e1m v&nbsp;jakoukoli denn\u00ed dobu. Pokud s&nbsp;t\u00edm budou m\u00edt probl\u00e9m, nic jim nebr\u00e1n\u00ed hledat specialistu jinde. Stejn\u011b tak je pot\u0159eba se pobavit o tom, co je ve va\u0161\u00ed kompetenci a co u\u017e spad\u00e1 pod jinou specializaci. Jinak by se z&nbsp;v\u00e1s tak\u00e9 mohla brzy st\u00e1t holka pro v\u0161echno. A to je jen prvn\u00ed kr\u016f\u010dek na cest\u011b k&nbsp;vyho\u0159en\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ujasn\u011bte si priority<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>M\u00e1te di\u00e1\u0159 pln\u00fd natolik, \u017ee nev\u00edte, kde za\u010d\u00edt? Srovnejte si \u00fakoly podle priorit a za\u010dn\u011bte postupn\u011b. I jako freelancer <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/odmitani-zakazek-kdy-dava-smysl-a-jak-se-s-nim-popasovat\/\">m\u00e1te pr\u00e1vo odm\u00edtnout dal\u0161\u00ed zak\u00e1zku<\/a>, pokud m\u00e1te kapacity pln\u00e9. Dal\u0161\u00ed mo\u017enost\u00ed, jak se popasovat s&nbsp;p\u0159epln\u011bn\u00fdm di\u00e1\u0159em, je zvednout svou sazbu. T\u00edm se tak\u00e9 postav\u00edte strachu z&nbsp;odm\u00edtnut\u00ed. \u0160ance, \u017ee by v\u00e1s odm\u00edtli v\u0161ichni klienti, je velmi nepravd\u011bpodobn\u00e1. A i kdy\u017e n\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed odejdou, budete d\u011blat m\u00e9n\u011b hodin za stejnou (nebo vy\u0161\u0161\u00ed) odm\u011bnu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Dejte si \u010das na rozmy\u0161lenou<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Nedok\u00e1\u017eete se rozhodnout okam\u017eit\u011b? Pokud v\u00e1s (potenci\u00e1ln\u00ed) klient o n\u011bco po\u017e\u00e1d\u00e1, nemus\u00edte odpov\u011bd\u011bt obratem. Nechte si \u010das na rozmy\u0161lenou a vyhodno\u0165te n\u00e1sleduj\u00edc\u00ed ot\u00e1zky:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>M\u00e1m na to dostate\u010dnou \u010dasovou i ment\u00e1ln\u00ed kapacitu?<\/li><li>Je to pr\u00e1ce, kterou chci d\u011blat?<\/li><li>Je to pro m\u011b p\u0159\u00ednosn\u00e9, nebo je to sp\u00ed\u0161 stresuj\u00edc\u00ed?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Pokud pro v\u00e1s z&nbsp;dan\u00e9 \u010dinnosti neplynou prakticky \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9 benefity, nebojte se odm\u00edtnout a pr\u00e1ci p\u0159esm\u011brovat na n\u011bkoho, kdo m\u00e1 v\u00edce \u010dasu, p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b to spad\u00e1 do jeho specializace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To, \u017ee nebudete vych\u00e1zet v\u017edy v\u0161em vst\u0159\u00edc je\u0161t\u011b neznamen\u00e1, \u017ee jste neochotn\u00ed. Jen u\u017e zn\u00e1te hodnotu sv\u00e9ho \u010dasu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Jeden z&nbsp;\u010dast\u00fdch probl\u00e9m\u016f, se kter\u00fdm se freelance\u0159i pot\u00fdkaj\u00ed, je to, \u017ee se sna\u017e\u00ed d\u011blat p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 mnoho v\u011bc\u00ed pro p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 mnoho klient\u016f, a u toho zapom\u00ednaj\u00ed na sebe a sv\u016fj \u017eivot.&#8230;<\/p>\n<div class=\"more-link-wrapper\"><a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/nebudte-people-pleaser-aneb-proc-je-nekdy-lepsi-myslet-na-sebe\/\">\u010c\u00edst d\u00e1le<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Nebu\u010fte people pleaser aneb Pro\u010d je n\u011bkdy lep\u0161\u00ed myslet na sebe<\/span><\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":1133,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1132","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-osobni-rozvoj-produktivita","category-pro-freelancery","excerpt"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1132","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1132"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1132\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1134,"href":"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1132\/revisions\/1134"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1133"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1132"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1132"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.freelance.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1132"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}